NZ Woman's Weekly

Abby Jaques: “Our brave little battler”

With her sparkly hazel eyes and youthful gaze, Abby Jaques doesn’t look like the type of person to be fronting a national arthritis campaign.

But for the past six years, the vivacious seven-year-old has been living with the debilitating illness – a condition many of us associate with the elderly, and not someone as young and vibrant as Abby.

The disorder involves inflammation and pain of the joints, but despite the constant discomfort and heavy medication, this Whangarei youngster tries her best to lead a normal and active life.

“I always want to do what all the other kids do,” says Abby. “But it can hurt and then I cry, because I don’t want to miss out on the fun.”

“Sometimes, I pretend that it doesn’t hurt, just so I can keep playing.”

Abby’s mum Sarah is astounded at the way her daughter throws herself into life, despite her debilitating condition.

Abby was diagnosed with juvenile arthritis, shortly after her second birthday. The first symptoms occurred when Abby’s mum, Sarah King, noticed her daughter was limping.

“The pain started in her ankles, then her toes and knees,” Sarah explains. “It gradually worked its way up to her neck, fingers, wrists and elbows. Now it’s travelling around her whole body.”

During her initial visits to the doctors, they were stumped, and didn’t consider testing for arthritis because of Abby’s age.

“Her knee got really swollen, and they thought it was an infection or a spider bite,” says Sarah. “They didn’t know what was wrong. They failed to test for inflammation because she was so young. She was in the most pain during the mornings, so I filmed her, just to show the doctors how severe the pain could get.”

When medical staff finally discovered why Abby was swelling up, it shocked Sarah to the core.

“I didn’t believe it,” she says. “How could my child have arthritis? They needed to talk me around until I fully accepted it. It was certainly a challenging first few weeks.”

The condition affects Abby every day in different ways. Her hands, wrists and elbows are often stiff and painful, her fingers swollen and visually affected, and she requires regular steroid injections.

“Her tolerance is so high, we sometimes don’t even realise how much pain she’s actually in,” says Sarah. “She just carries on with life, despite the fact that she is hurting so much.”

The illness does not run in the family, and doctors are baffled as to why Abby is affected at such a young age.

“It appears to be one of those random things,” Sarah says.

The solo mother, Abby, and Sarah’s 20-year-old son Nathan live on a 13-acre lifestyle block, which is perfect for Abby, because she loves the outdoors. She also enjoys hockey, ballet and swimming, and her condition hasn’t stopped her from doing the things she loves, and enjoying her childhood.

Abby also has a kitten that suffers from an anomaly with its “fingers”. The cat, called Manaia, has thumbs, and Abby says they “look after each other”.

Abby and her cat Manaia have a special bond.

“It’s lifted her spirits,” says Sarah. “Abby’s fingers are different and so are the cat’s. It gives her comfort.”

The difficulty Abby has with writing and drawing hasn’t stopped the youngster from writing a book with her mum about what it’s like to be a child with arthritis. She has completed the illustrations herself and is currently looking for someone to publish it, as a resource for other children living with the condition.

Abby loves being outdoors and makes the most of her 13-acre surroundings.

Abby’s perseverance inspires Sarah every day.

“She’s been through so much and refuses to grizzle about it,” Sarah says. “I’m simply amazed at how well she has coped.”

Photos: David White • Hair & make-up: Nicki Spence

About Aroha Awarau

I started my exciting magazine career at the NZ Woman’s Weekly seven years ago, and I’ve returned after two years away. I have a passion for telling Kiwi stories – the triumphs, the heartbreaks and the many inspirational tales.

more of this author

One Response to “Abby Jaques: “Our brave little battler””

  1. garethb Oct 1 2013, 10:32am

    I would like to say that this girl and her family are truly amazing, I’m Abby’s teacher and if I hadn’t been told about her condition I would say that she is a typical seven year old girl. She get’s involved with all aspects of classroom life with no fuss, she doesn’t complain, and she works exceptionally hard. She is brave and resilient, and it breaks my heart to see one so young having to cope with this. But she does every day, and what more, she does it with a smile on her face. Well done Abby, and well done Sarah!

Cover 1540

Subscribe to the magazine

Jenny-May’s magical day

In this week's issue of New Zealand Woman's Weekly magazine: Jenny-May shares her magical day!

New Zealand Woman's Weekly is the country's most-loved women's magazine, bringing a wide variety of news, stories, recipes and helpful hints to the home every week.

Subscribe now

Subscribe to our newsletters

Receive the latest celebrity news, recipes and beauty tips, delivered right to your inbox.