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Finding love after loss

How you can rediscover romance after losing after partner.
Love after loss

Few of life’s challenges compare to losing a spouse. But somehow, with the healing balm of time and the support of our nearest and dearest, we learn to live again. Once the dark cloud of grief lifts, many women discover that opening their heart again can be wonderful. Here’s how to navigate the path to new companionship.

Grieve in your own way

Just like our most intimate relationships, bereavement is intensely personal. During the rawest stages, it can be impossible to predict how you’ll feel in the months and years afterwards. Finding a new normal is never easy but it’s essential to take grief at its own pace. You deserve time and space to heal, however long it takes, and you deserve to move on when it feels right.

Move on

Deciding when to seek a new romantic relationship after the loss of a partner is a sensitive topic. If and when you do feel ready, be prepared for ups and downs. It may help to imagine how your partner would feel about you taking this step. Or consider what you would want for them if the situation were reversed.

Tread carefully

While a new relationship can enrich your life, you can be vulnerable if you start dating within a few months of a bereavement, when your emotions may be all over the place. It’s also wise to consider the feelings of close family before an involvement deepens. A good idea may be to introduce friends to your new companion first.

Stay true to yourself

Whether or not finding romance is on your mind, spending time with friends and meeting new people is vital. Whether it’s a trivia night, walking club, art class or a game of tennis, go along. Putting yourself out there is part of the recovery process and will help to build your confidence, even if you don’t want to try dating.

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