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Dreaming of deceased husband

Dreaming of deceased husband

Dear Janet Louise,
Twenty years ago my happy-go-lucky, laid-back husband died suddenly. At the time, we were perfectly happy and had a good life. Since then, I have had dreams of him visiting me. The first one occurred soon after he died where he said very seriously, “I’m okay, I’m all right.” In the second one, he appeared in front of me, telling me in the same tone that I can’t come near him or touch him, before he drifted away. All subsequent dreams have been the same in nature, apart from the most recent ones. The latest dream was quite disturbing as he said it was time I died and if I didn’t he would take our son (now in his thirties). As he was a happy person, I don’t understand this anger and I feel very sad as it seems as if my husband is not at peace. Can you help me understand these dreams?

Madge, via email

Dear Madge,
This is a rather unsettling dream and I can imagine it does unnerve you. This type of dreaming signifies that it’s time to resolve and release your suppressed emotions of sadness, pain and frustration – perhaps even guilt. You are clearly missing your husband, but rest assured that he is at peace and is asking you to leave the past behind and move forward with your life.

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About Janet Louise

In her weekly column, Janet endeavours to offer insights into our subconscious, as well as provide some guidance and advice for those seeking spiritual guidance. She believes we are forever seeking clarity and understanding, and that often our dreams enable us to see more clearly the options that are presented to us. In her column she clarifies those options and offer direction.

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