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Dear Wendyl,
I am a single woman who has lots of friends who are couples. It has never really worried me or them. Recently, one couple split up and since then I have been getting texts from the guy asking me out for a drink and saying he needs someone to talk to. I want to go because I really like him, but I don’t want the rest of the group to think that I’ve been sitting there all this time plotting to get him off his wife or anything. How do I handle this? I’d really like to see where it goes as he’s a great guy, but I don’t want to be branded as a man stealer.

Cautiously Optimistic, by email

Dear Cautiously Optimistic,
This is so easy to fix – keep everything in the group. When you meet with him, make sure others from the group come too so they can see that there is nothing untoward going on and you are all just being friends together. And watch yourself. This guy will need time to get over his relationship and perhaps even rebuild his relationship, so be a friend first and put your other feelings away for the time being. Also be a friend to his wife as well. If, after a few months, he is still single and wants to “chat”, start a relationship slowly – do not rush into this.

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