My husband recently had his 65th birthday and has been a real pain ever since. For some reason he thinks there’s nothing much to do past 65. He actually said, “I’m just going to sit here and wait to die.” I’ve told him that we are quite likely to live into our eighties as we are both fit and healthy and he just looks at me as if I’m stark raving mad. He refuses to do anything except sit in his chair and watch television most days. What can I do?
If your husband used to be active and this is a big change then you need to get him off to the GP. He could be suffering from depression and there are things he can do to improve his life. But if this is perfectly normal behaviour then there’s not much you can do except try to get him interested in hobbies, outings, holidays or walks. Often all it takes is a nudge in the right direction. Make a list of things that might push his buttons and see if something sets him off.
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