My partner and I are in our late fifties and just clocked up 26 years of being together. I know I should have seen this as a wonderful achievement but I have been overpowered with the belief that I should cut and run while I can. I haven’t really been happy for the past decade, and I wonder if I should just let it go and start a new relationship so that I can be happy for the rest of my life. Do you think this is a good idea or not?
Bored and Tired, by email
Dear Bored and Tired,
It takes two to tango, or in your case be bored and tired. It is possible that you are being a little unrealistic, imagining that somewhere out there is the perfect man. You might just have him at home, but it could take a bit of work to rediscover him. Before you throw yourself out into the single life, why not see if you can repair or reupholster the relationship you have, and give it a chance to revive before you bury it. Then, if you still feel the same way, at least you can tell yourself that you gave it a good shot.
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