Advice about workmate

Dear Wendyl,
I have been friends with a workmate for two years now. He is a great guy and we get on really well. In the early days, he asked me out and I made it clear that I just wanted to be friends and didn’t feel “that way” about him. I thought he had got the message, but a mutual friend said he told her “it was just a matter of time” before he wears me down and gets me into bed! I was really shocked and I think he’s just a big creep. Should I sacrifice our friendship because of this?

Creeped Out, via email

Dear Creeped Out,
At the moment, you just have your mutual friend’s word for this, so check the source. Ask your friend if he said it. If he did, tell him you don’t appreciate it and you’re going to end the friendship because you can’t trust him. He might surprise you and give you another version of the story, which may just be that he said he was sad you weren’t interested. You’d be amazed how friends exaggerate. If he did say those things then it’s time to edit that friend out of your life. Move on and remove yourself from a potentially dodgy situation.

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