Society often tells us that men want sex more than women. But what happens when your man seems to have gone off the boil? Women tend to take this personally, but often it has nothing to do with you, or your partner no longer finding you attractive. There are many reasons why your man's attentions may not be focused on your intimacy in the bedroom.

He's exhausted

When your partner is physically exhausted, it can quickly drain his potential for making love. With our busy, modern lifestyles, all sorts of things can contribute to exhaustion such as overwork, not doing enough exercise and poor diet. All of these will mean that your man will only feel like sleeping, once he gets into bed.

He's unwell

We've all heard of the 'man cold' and it is true that men have a lower threshold for pain and make terrible patients! However, ongoing illness may be indicative of a more serious condition so keep an eye on any coughs and sniffles.

He's on medication

Certain medicines and recreational drugs can reduce sex drive. Excessive alcohol consumption can also affect erectile dysfunction.  If your hubby is on any prescription medication, check what the side effects are.

He's depressed

One of the major side effects of depression is a loss of libido, so if your husband has got the blues then chances are, sex is something he won't be interested in. The good news is that depression is treatable so if your man has any of the symptoms of depression encourage him to go and see his doctor - and get back in the bedroom!

He has 'issues'

This is not the same as simple exhaustion at the end of a busy day. Issues are bigger than everyday stresses and strains.  Does your partner have problems stemming from years ago – perhaps even before you met him – that may be troubling him? This area is a tricky one to broach so let your partner know your concern for him, and that you will be there when he is ready to talk.

He's low on testosterone

Lowered testosterone levels can become a real problem for men as they age. Side effects include weight gain, loss of muscle tone, irritability, inadequate erections and poor sexual performance. While the medical profession has always believed that this was merely the effects of aging, new proof has come to light that - as women loose estrogen during and after menopause - men too go through changes in later middle age but as their process is slower, changes are not as obvious. Usually after 40 men begin to undergo a mid-life hormone change - which is sometimes referred to as andopause - where testosterone levels start to decline.

Speak to your local doctor for more information, if you suspect your man is suffering from low testosterone.

He's complacent

Early on in a relationship, physical attraction is at an all time high. When combined with the excitement of being with someone new, the results can be potent! However, over time, as the emotional bond begins to strengthen, and lives return to normal, the instinct and desire to get jiggy at every opportunity may diminish. Still, there's a fine line between being comfortable with your partner and being complacent. If you are feeling neglected, let your partner know and tell him to up his game!