Agony aunt: The sound of silence
Hi Wendyl,
I’m in a relationship with a man who I see a few times a week. The problem is, he’s never said he loves me and I’ve never met his family. I’ve met his kids and ex-wife and he has met my parents, but I get the feeling I’m not important enough to meet his. I feel like I could be wasting my time and he’ll find someone else he thinks is worthy to commit to. I don’t want to break it off, as I love and adore him, but at times I feel I should. Do you have any advice?
Julie, email
Dear Julie,
Run. As fast as you can. I’ve known women to stick with relationships like this for decades, only to end up dumped on the side of the road. The key things are a) he never says he loves you, and b) he doesn’t want you to meet his family. It’s nice you love and adore him, but until you get that back, you’re wasting your time. And why would you consider being in a relationship with someone who treats you in such an offhanded manner? Believe in yourself, believe that someone out there will love you, then move on.
Wendyl
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