Agony aunt: crime of passion

Dear Wendyl,

Six months ago I went on a business trip with a team from work. one night, after we’d finished a hard day’s work, I drank too much and ended up in bed with a colleague in his hotel room. The next day we both agreed it was a bad idea and left it at that.

But now I’m about to get married to my long-term boyfriend and I feel I should tell him about it before we go through with it, out of fairness.

But then I think it might create a storm about nothing, because I don’t care for this other guy at all. What would you do?

Bel, by email

Dear Bel,

What would I do? I’m a terrible liar so have to spend my life going around being honest. In your case I suggest you say nothing. only because this man means nothing to you and there is no likelihood he will get in the way of your relationship.

on the other hand, if you had feelings for him and were thinking of sleeping with him again, then it’s not so much a matter of telling your husband-to-be but having a think about why you’re getting married at all. Let this go, try not to let it bug you and move on. We all make mistakes. We need to move on and not let them stay with us for years to come.